You were surviving. Now, you can thrive.
Practical coaching for the shame, pessimism, and feelings of threat. Lean on a community of women who get it. Delivered by a coach who's lived it.
- Flinching at sudden movements or noises
- Lying awake replaying things
- Friends who say “just move on”
- Wondering “why can’t I just be normal?”
None of this means you’re broken. It’s what surviving leaves behind, and it can change.
Confidence through action: at your pace
You don't have to relive anything to move forward. This work is about taking the next tiny step.
Find your footing
Tools and routines for when you feel threatened or start to shut down, built on researched frameworks like STAIR, a skills program tested with women survivors. Learn that the process will take time, and have patience and kindness for yourself.
Build your strength
Create daily sleep, diet, and movement habits. Learn clear boundaries. We help you figure out what support you want next: a different therapist, a somatic practitioner, a yoga class, or going solo.
Live your values
An identity built from what you care about and enjoy. We don't pretend or "manifest": we draw on methods like Behavioral Activation (a methodology that rewards actions that lead to benefit), and we build confidence from accomplishments and practicing with women like you.
Hi, I'm Benny.
My parents abused me. I felt alone, scared, and suicidal for much of my life. It took me years to find a way out of my darkness, and I want to help the millions of women out there who went through similar traumas to find the light also.
Why coaching for women, when I'm a man? My entire life, I faced injustice, and I came to recognize how much harder the world makes it for women to heal. I'm doing this to provide post-trauma resources for women, who often lack these. Here, you’re in control: text, audio or video, camera on or off, and you can stop anytime without explaining. You never have to trust me on faith. That’s something I earn.
My approach is unique in that I give you many options. I've been failed by therapy, so I'll never push you into it. I give you practical skills that you can do on your own, drawn from research, and I moderate a community of women like you, so you can offer and receive help from supportive peers. And if you feel like the time is right, I'll also help you find the right licensed professional.
I coach women in their 20s and 30s who feel called towards my program and are safe right now. You can book a free consultation with me to see if 1:1 coaching is right for you, or with my free guide or ebook.
A free, no-pressure call. Camera optional.
"The path to happiness exists. It takes time. Just take one step after another."
7 Steps to Confidence
A practical roadmap for rebuilding your life after abuse, one small step at a time.
- A simple way to feel safer and calmer in your daily life
- Grounding skills for when you feel panicked or numb
- Tiny habits that lift your mood without overwhelming you
- How to find a therapist who actually fits, if you want one
- Determining your boundaries and values
- A plan for when you can't get out of bed
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